As someone who makes their way through this world expecting to like those I meet, I am not naïve enough to believe that everyone I meet will be my next best friend, or that I will want to move them up from acquaintance to friend, however, imagine being open enough to suspend any judgments before you interact with someone?
How might your life change if I told you that every person you were going to meet in the next hour, regardless of how they looked, what language they spoke, whether they were rich or poor, black, brown or white, male or female, had something of great value to give to you. Nuggests of gold that they couldn’t share with you until you suspended any judgement of their worth to you, at least until you could find that out for yourself.
What if we took on the perspective of looking forward to meeting the next stranger that comes our way, regardless of who they are or how they look? Do you think it would be possible for you to don the ‘hat’ of a Prospector for the day? A miner whose mission is to actively search for the ‘gold’ within?
What if you started by looking for the things you both have in common. Do they have a family, or children? Do they enjoy running or swimming, or are they a musician or painter? Do they love to sit on the beach and enjoy the smell of the ocean or do they work hard all the time and never have time for a vacation? Have they ever broken a bone or rode a horse? Do they live with pain, or have chronic illness? Have they ever been in Love? Have they ever lost a love? Do they have any regrets about life and if so, what would they change if they could? What could you do to help them?
We have more similarities than differences.. We are the same species and just like dogs or cats, our shape, colour and temperaments differ, but no matter what we look like on the outside, we can still mate with one another, we still share the same physical need for water, warmth when cold, food when hungry, and comfort when hurt.
Whether you like to walk this planet alone or live with a large family, we are pack animals and without touch, especially in our first year of life, we lose part of our humanity.
We have all heard of feral children, children brought up in the wild, raised by animals, well by a certain age, it becomes impossible to socialize them or give them language skills. This can also happen to children who are never given a comforting touch as babies. Though they are surrounded by human beings, the massive loss of their potential is astounding. The orphans they found in Bulgaria after the war are a perfect example. These babies were left alone all day in their cribs. They were given a minimal amount of interaction, just enough to feed them and change their diapers. Denied the comfort of touch and soft words, these children became catatonic. Their potential intelligence stunted, irreversibly, emotionally void and vacuous. What is my point here?
Each and every one of us has a deep need for one another. Even those who like to live alone need a certain amount of social interaction, even if it’s from their dog.
Any differences we have are environmental not inherent. We are products of our socialization, molded by our family’s first, conditioned to fit into the society in which we were born.
Once we recognize this, we can change our story of intolerance, and instead of disliking those who are not like us or that we were conditioned to hate on sight, we can become tolerant and even more, when we look for ways to celebrate the differences and find comfort in the similarities.
We weren’t born hating one another. That is a lesson well taught. However it is also one that can be relearned.
I have always said that I could take ANYONE off the street and make an interesting and compelling video about them. No matter who they are or what they look like, there will be something in their tale that we can all relate too.
Each of us shares this ‘human’ experience connected spiritually. We all are tapped into ONE consciousness. Sure we each have our own agenda and individual journey’s complete, but as you grow spiritually, so will this feeling of oneness.
I invite you today to change your perspective for just one hour. Engage the very next person you meet with an open countenance, and a true desire to find out who they are, to find a reason to like them. Look for the hidden nugget, the gem that is them.
I am so excited to share with you an update from my good buddy Kevin Allen aka ‘the Banana Man’..
One evening when Kevin’s family had gone out, he found himself sitting in his comfy chair in front of the telly watching whatever programs that came on because his remote was not next to him and he had no little kiddies around to fetch it for him.
Giving into his lazyiness, Kevin became absorbed in a Documentary that had come on. Now normally this is NOT the kind of show that would have kept his attention for more than the time it would take to CLICK the remote, but given that he was ’stuck’, he watched on.
Eventually, his emotions became such that he actually found himself crying over the plight of a little boy who had just found out that his father , his only living relative, had succumbed to AIDS and died, leaving him an orphan. This little boy had to walk home for miles and when he got there, he would find an empty hovel, with no food, no water and no one to look after him.
Thinking of his own children, Kevin found that he couldn’t in good conscience do nothing.
He had never been a social activist, but within 3 days, Kevin had left his home in London, and travelled to Zululand to find this little boy… if you want to know more.. please purchase his book
Proceeds from the Sale of this VERY ENGAGING book will help feed the children. Amazingly enough, only $80.00 US dollars will provide 1000 meals of fresh fruit to school children for a month.. WOW, how can you NOT feed these kids..
PLEASE HELP KEVIN MEET HIS GOAL OF £40,000 - THIS WILL FEED 1 MILLION SCHOOL MEALS
Just back from a recent trip, Kevin shares some smiles with us.
If you are seeking a gift for the woman who has everything this Christmas might I suggest a book entitled Queen of the Urban Jungle by Angie Trelstad. IN fact, I recommend you give this to ALL the ladies you know. It just might help protect those that you love from harms way.
Angie survived a viscious rape at 17 and never told another living soul. She completely blocked the fact from her mind for the next 20 or so years until one day it all came out during a cross country drive with her husband.
Her book is called Queen of the Urban Jungle and I highly recommend it for EVERY woman in your family.
14,9 women are attacked every minute. That is 840 in one hour and 50 while i have been typing these last few sentences. That is 1 in 3. Look around you. In Angie’s own family, 2 women out of 5 were assaulted. I can claim the same statistics in my own.
Yes the stats are frightening but you can do something about it. Angie says she doesn’t promote SCARE tactics, she promotes AWARE tactics. The tips she gives you in the book will certainly go a LONG way to making sure that you are never taken unaware. Know where you are at all times. See how you can extricate yourself from a situation if you have too. Don’t trust authority so easily and ALWAYS listen to your instincts.
Angie says that she now looks after the inside and outside of a womens self esteem by making them strong mentally as well as beautiful physically. Her business is called Solerra or Sunless beauty. If you go to www.sunlessbeauty.com or visit www.solerra.com she will give you a 10 % discount by putting in my name, Frankie. That’s right just type Frankieand receive a discount right now. It is an amazing revolutionary self tanning mitt that will have you glowing beautifully without the high price of cancer to pay for it.
Once again….the book is called Queen of the URBAN Jungle. Make sure its on your stocking stuffer List today.
Merry XMAS and have a SAFE and Healthy New Year….:) coach frankie
I am betting that if you are reading this, then you are among the richest people in the world…and You have much to be grateful for. Don’t believe me.. watch the video.. and know just how blessed you are.
Severn Suzuki is the daughter of Dr. David Suzuki, who is an award-winning scientist, environmentalist and broadcaster. This is a copy of her 6 min. speech delivered 15 years ago to the United Nations. I find that her message and call to action is even more poignant today.
As someone who makes their way through this world expecting to like those I meet, I am not naïve enough to believe that everyone I meet will be my next best friend, or that I will want to move them up from acquaintance to friend, however, imagine being open enough to suspend any judgments before you interact with someone?
If you are seeking a gift for the woman who has everything this Christmas might I suggest a book entitled Queen of the Urban Jungle by Angie Trelstad. IN fact, I recommend you give this to ALL the ladies you know. It just might help protect those that you love from harms way.
DECEMBER 6, 2007- DECEMBER 20, 2007
